“My partner bugs me to be more romantic, but how can I romance them without the cheesiness that I dislike so much.”
To some people this may sound like an oxymoron: “Romance is cheesy,” they’ll say.
Since this month, August, is Romance Awareness Month, why not shed light on this deprived ritual between some couples?
Let’s start with a video.
Take the quick quiz and learn the two options you have to be romantic without the cheesiness.
Romance without the Cheesiness
Now that you’ve watched it, let’s clarify a couple things.
As I said in the video, Romance is a way to display your affection. Some sort of proof that your care and amour is still breathing and living—not dead on arrival.
If you’re the one seeking to romance without being cheesy:
Find ways that you can share or show how you feel that you feel comfortable with. Learn what are the things that your partner finds romantic, it may be something super easy, or have a pattern that you can understand and then find something that suits your nature and personality, without sacrificing one of the fundamentals of a relationship, maintaining a high level of positive interactions.
If you’re the one hoping to be romanced—and soon:
Get real specific with your partner with what you want. I know the examples in the video are not the “typical romantic” flowers, so if you want that, say it! The complaint I often hear, and I even made, is, “it’s not the same if I have to remind him.” It loses it’s surprise, I get it. But that’s a destructive cycle to wait and hope when you already know they won’t surprise you and then feel rejected or forgotten afterward.
It’s completely okay to say 3 days before you’re birthday, “flowers and a card are something I’d like for my birthday.” You have full permission. Then be surprised with their choice of flowers and card.
If you’re partner has never been the romantic type, take baby steps and be thankful for the small surprises. It’s okay to give your partner a little bit of help, after all, you’re rooting for them to do well, not to fail.
If you google “romance” you’ll get: a quality or feeling of mystery, excitement, and remoteness from everyday life.
We all need those words or acts that brighten up our lives.
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