Trust


How to be supportive and show you care

How to be supportive and show you care

How do you show you care? Is it with simple gestures, a small gift, or picking up the phone every time your partner calls? To be considered dependable, a source of support, and someone to trust, you’re probably already offering all these things—or almost all of them. Relationship science has found 5 behaviors that show you care in any relationship (with your partner, your friends, your relatives, your children, etc.).   Respect As Frei & Shaver found in their research, a partner worthy of respect is someone who possesses moral qualities, consideration for others, acceptance of others, honesty, and willingness to listen to others.   Trust Relationship science says we trust those who we confidently believe to have our best interests at heart. Although this takes time, it happens when someone is consistently attentive to our wishes and is reliably unselfish towards our needs.   Capitalization A good friend...

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How to Safely Trust Your Partner (Again)

How to Safely Trust Your Partner (Again)

Not so long ago I unveiled how not having trust for your partner can be worse than cheating—or as the Bustler interviewer wrote: The Cold Hand of Death. In truth, she’s not exaggerating. So let’s dive in on how to trust again. Avoid the Intimacy-Killer Naturally, when deprived of our needs and when we’ve lost trust for our partner, we fall into daily negative interactions where we only look out for ourselves, even if it sabbotages our partner. Dr. Gottman, a lead researcher in the field, coins this the “secret relationship killer.” We simply make a bet when we trust. We bet/hope this person won’t let us down, won’t hide things from us, won’t keep important secrets from us, won’t make false promises, and won’t coward to bad influences. I don’t know a soul that says “I don’t mind being ignored, desrespected, betrayed, and forgotten.” We want some sort...

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