Respect


How to be supportive and show you care

How to be supportive and show you care

How do you show you care? Is it with simple gestures, a small gift, or picking up the phone every time your partner calls? To be considered dependable, a source of support, and someone to trust, you’re probably already offering all these things—or almost all of them. Relationship science has found 5 behaviors that show you care in any relationship (with your partner, your friends, your relatives, your children, etc.).   Respect As Frei & Shaver found in their research, a partner worthy of respect is someone who possesses moral qualities, consideration for others, acceptance of others, honesty, and willingness to listen to others.   Trust Relationship science says we trust those who we confidently believe to have our best interests at heart. Although this takes time, it happens when someone is consistently attentive to our wishes and is reliably unselfish towards our needs.   Capitalization A good friend...

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When to sweep things under the rug

When to sweep things under the rug

Humor me by pretending we all solve our problems in the most respectful and appropriate manner. Yes, that means we’re pretending we would never roll our eyes, blame, manipulate, yell, ignore, overreact, or sweep things under the rug. We’re like the perfect couple you run into at church or at your child’s school, that never argue and are always so nice to each other (puke!). If an issue comes up for them, both of them say sorry, how cute—not, and make up. Wait? You relate to this couple? Are ya sure you’re human? Oh good, you are. We’re just pretending we’re like this couple. Good. We’re on the same page.   So let’s pretend we do all the following, which is the opposite of sweeping things under the rug: 1. We take responsibility for our part. If you’ve had a disagreement with your partner it doesn’t take long for you...

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How to Safely Trust Your Partner (Again)

How to Safely Trust Your Partner (Again)

Not so long ago I unveiled how not having trust for your partner can be worse than cheating—or as the Bustler interviewer wrote: The Cold Hand of Death. In truth, she’s not exaggerating. So let’s dive in on how to trust again. Avoid the Intimacy-Killer Naturally, when deprived of our needs and when we’ve lost trust for our partner, we fall into daily negative interactions where we only look out for ourselves, even if it sabbotages our partner. Dr. Gottman, a lead researcher in the field, coins this the “secret relationship killer.” We simply make a bet when we trust. We bet/hope this person won’t let us down, won’t hide things from us, won’t keep important secrets from us, won’t make false promises, and won’t coward to bad influences. I don’t know a soul that says “I don’t mind being ignored, desrespected, betrayed, and forgotten.” We want some sort...

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Why You Should Be Treated Right In Your Relationship & How To Make It Happen Today

Why You Should Be Treated Right In Your Relationship & How To Make It Happen Today

How do you get your partner to treat you right? Either you have a wish or expectation that’s clear in your mind and now it’s time to make it a reality. Because darling, we all deserve to be treated right in our relationship.   Which statement do you agree with more? A. He/She should know what I’m upset about without me having to spell it out for them. B. I feel like I can’t breath sometimes, like I’m walking on eggshells, and my partner needs to cool off before approaching me. C. I wish my partner would say “I love you” more often; he/she isn’t giving me the affection I need.   The different people that shared this with us, all summed up “I’m being treated like crap!”   But “being treated like crap” is pretty relative, because the reasons and actual situations are very different, and the meaning...

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