Personal Growth


We never forget when others hurt us—and why that's a good thing

We never forget when others hurt us—and why that’s a good thing

  We won’t forget the hurtful things. That’s our human blessing. If we were to forget it would be the same as walking up to a rattle snake in the wild and petting it. Being completely abset-minded of the pain we’re deliberately walking into. Our memory lets us know this, whatever this is, is not safe. The fear has been our alarm to survive and avoid physical danger. Today, we don’t find ourselves physically running away from danger, but emotionally we are. It’s healthy to be aware and identify what’s simply not safe. But it’s unhealthy for our bodies to consume our fear. Sometimes, we have to be in incredibly difficult situations where we feel uncomfortable, betrayed, belittled, ostracized, or bullied. We are forced to a certain point. This bodily reaction is telling us to run, but we can’t. But we can gently leave these scenarios without causing more...

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Experiencing Meaningless Happiness? Do this instead.

Experiencing Meaningless Happiness? Do this instead.

Are you experiencing meaningless happiness? Remember thinking “I will be happy when ____.” Then it happens, and after some time, or sometimes even immediately, it’s not as fulfilling. Meaningless happiness is what you feel when what you thought what would make you happy, actually doesn’t. Maybe we’ve won a Grammy, had a makeover, hit the jackpot, bought a house, got engaged, lost our virginity, finally stopped biting our nails, and lost some weight to then find something else we need. All because we thought, “If only I were rich/famous/fit/the boss/engaged/homeowner, I would be happy.” If only. What’s your “if only” that you’re thinking about now? According to the happiness gurus in positive psychology, all that “if only” amount to 10% of our happiness. The good news, we have control of our happiness, 40% of it to be exact. Doctor Sonja Lyubomirsky and her collegues at the University of California, Riverside found...

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Resolutions: 2 steps to complete with less stress

Resolutions: 2 steps to complete with less stress

Welcome to 2017 darling. Hope you’ve concluded last year’s chapter and holiday season with a celebratory embrace. I kept busy with family in town and caught a cold at the end of it. It doesn’t feel good to vacation with a fever and an achy body. I enjoyed what I could at the end, but I mostly cared about sleep. Now the house is empty and I feel better—I was afraid of that. Alfred and I are rolling out a new program FREE, but before I give you the details we want to share the only new year’s resolution you’ll need this year. Because here’s the truth… Ambitious people can take on too much and then feel like their goals weren’t reached. It’s easy to spread ourselves thin when we have lots of hopes and dreams and goals we want to accomplish. And let’s face it… 40% of resolution makers don’t...

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