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Are regular date nights even necessary for couples?

Are regular date nights even necessary for couples?

  Say you don’t have the time or money to plan those romantic dates because last time you went to the opera by private plane with—wait, that’s Pretty Woman. In every relationship education class there is a strong encouragement for regular date nights. Some couples say they don’t miss a week. Others, ahem, a good amount, say they try once in awhile. Then there’s those who say they don’t need date nights at all. Well, what is best for you? Are you missing out on something if you changed the way you date your long-term partner?  It’s almost like the question of comparing which workout is better, high-intensity or moderate? Depends. One saves time. But why are you working out? What’s the purpose? To lose weight, be healthy, maintain your weight, build up strength?   What’s the purpose of date nights? In the field of RME (relationship and marriage educaion), we often...

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Experiencing Meaningless Happiness? Do this instead.

Experiencing Meaningless Happiness? Do this instead.

Are you experiencing meaningless happiness? Remember thinking “I will be happy when ____.” Then it happens, and after some time, or sometimes even immediately, it’s not as fulfilling. Meaningless happiness is what you feel when what you thought what would make you happy, actually doesn’t. Maybe we’ve won a Grammy, had a makeover, hit the jackpot, bought a house, got engaged, lost our virginity, finally stopped biting our nails, and lost some weight to then find something else we need. All because we thought, “If only I were rich/famous/fit/the boss/engaged/homeowner, I would be happy.” If only. What’s your “if only” that you’re thinking about now? According to the happiness gurus in positive psychology, all that “if only” amount to 10% of our happiness. The good news, we have control of our happiness, 40% of it to be exact. Doctor Sonja Lyubomirsky and her collegues at the University of California, Riverside found...

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Resolutions: 2 steps to complete with less stress

Resolutions: 2 steps to complete with less stress

Welcome to 2017 darling. Hope you’ve concluded last year’s chapter and holiday season with a celebratory embrace. I kept busy with family in town and caught a cold at the end of it. It doesn’t feel good to vacation with a fever and an achy body. I enjoyed what I could at the end, but I mostly cared about sleep. Now the house is empty and I feel better—I was afraid of that. Alfred and I are rolling out a new program FREE, but before I give you the details we want to share the only new year’s resolution you’ll need this year. Because here’s the truth… Ambitious people can take on too much and then feel like their goals weren’t reached. It’s easy to spread ourselves thin when we have lots of hopes and dreams and goals we want to accomplish. And let’s face it… 40% of resolution makers don’t...

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How to Revive a Dead Relationship… In Minutes

How to Revive a Dead Relationship… In Minutes

Sometimes the simplest things are the ones that produce more value. When we overcomplicate our lives we succeed in feeling overwhelmed and that won’t necessarily spark any fresh adventure, passionate connection, or relaxing massages on a sunny beach.   I do have one big question for you. How do you feel alive? Speaking in general terms, how do you feel alive in life? What do you like to do that lifts your mood? What are things that make you feel happy? Within any relationship, we first must make ourselves happy before we can search happiness within a romantic relationship. But let’s dive into what will make a relationship come alive, when you know how to make yourself happy—these only take a few minutes to do. 1. Celebrate Good News Genuinely, No Matter How Small.  Scientists have revealed the secret to building strong relationships, not just with your partner. The...

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4 Ways To Boost Your Happiness During Difficult Times

4 Ways To Boost Your Happiness During Difficult Times

Hard times come in many different forms, mostly by sudden surprise, such as a car accident, natural disaster, job loss, divorce, death of a loved one, losing a job, severe illness, or by continuous unstoppable hardship such as domestic violence and discrimination. Far too many of us have endured severe trauma. This can take us months—if not years—to heal from. It’s physically, emotionally and mentally taxing. After a hardship, we want our sanity back. We want to feel our “normal selves” again. When we feel overwhelmed and absorbed by the hardship, either financially, emotionally or however, we need to find something that can alleviate the pain. This is called coping. There are 4 different ways to do this. 1) Problem-focused. If it’s a type of problem that can be solved, then this approach is to find a solution. It’s pretty straightforward. If you don’t know how to solve it,...

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The Backlash of Living in The Now, With Scientific Proof

It is not good or healthy to always live in the now. Why? Well, how can you completely live in the now when there is also the future to think about? As a parent, a student, an entrepreneur, a teacher, a CEO, etc. I know, we usually hear a lot about Living in the Moment, because we commonly plan for the future and think of how we can learn from our past mistakes, and also because we are too often distracted from what is happening at this moment. BUT there are those who overdo living in the present. Meaning, they are living in “instant gratification.” What if I offered you a marshmallow, but I said, if you wait 10 minutes, you can have 2 marshmallows instead of 1. Would you wait? Or would you eat it? There is this adorable study with children being asked this very question to...

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How to Explore Love Savvy Club

How to Explore Love Savvy Club

Welcome to the Love Savvy Club! A resource created to bridge academic research and pop psychology, by making the right information available to the public. If you’re new, we suggest getting started here and download our Free Audio Training on Getting the Intimacy You Want. In the training you’ll learn 3 strategies that’ll give the satisfaction, confidence and appreciation you need to create the love life you want. We also have a FREE 11-Day Communication Challenge. We all can get fed up with our partner’s lack of communication, or realizing half-way through sharing something important that no one is listening (or responding). For some of us it doesn’t come easy to share vulnerable feelings, even though we know we should lay out all the cards on the table. Other times we just want to hit the “ignore” button or check out. Either because it’s overwhelming or a dead end. The Communication...

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