Friendship


How to be supportive and show you care

How to be supportive and show you care

How do you show you care? Is it with simple gestures, a small gift, or picking up the phone every time your partner calls? To be considered dependable, a source of support, and someone to trust, you’re probably already offering all these things—or almost all of them. Relationship science has found 5 behaviors that show you care in any relationship (with your partner, your friends, your relatives, your children, etc.).   Respect As Frei & Shaver found in their research, a partner worthy of respect is someone who possesses moral qualities, consideration for others, acceptance of others, honesty, and willingness to listen to others.   Trust Relationship science says we trust those who we confidently believe to have our best interests at heart. Although this takes time, it happens when someone is consistently attentive to our wishes and is reliably unselfish towards our needs.   Capitalization A good friend...

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How to help a friend with relationship problems

How to help a friend with relationship problems

  As human beings we need to support each other and be there for each other. Despite our differences in what makes us upset or what we truly want, we need each other to get through any setbacks or current struggles. We’re not meant to struggle on our own.  We have the power to make things worse for our friend, like upsetting them more and affecting their emotional health, or take a load off their shoulders and be by their side in whatever path they take. The last thing we want is to make things worse because of misguided advice! We don’t want to say the wrong thing, get over involved, or assume our friend has the same needs and feelings we do to then realize they got the results they didn’t want (but we would’ve wanted if we were in their shoes). The worst adivce we ever got was to...

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Are you chasing someone or something?

Are you chasing someone or something?

We hear so much about perseverance and getting what you want at all costs if you truly want it, but no one ever talks about annoyance. I made the mistake to generalize perseverance in many aspects of my life. In one instance, where it wasn’t prudent, I hassled my manager at the restaurant I worked for to promote me. I had been given the advice to keep requesting, kindly/gently/calmly until the person is so fed up hearing the request they just give in. I thought I could apply this in the work place, since the advice came from a higher up in the work place. Instead of just getting what I wanted, I fractured a friendship and annoyed the hell out of my manager. I moved on to training a bit uneasy because it went about the wrong way. I don’t ever like to be passive-aggressive, inauthentic, pushy, or...

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