Communication


What can the hit TV show FRIENDS teach us about communication

What can the hit TV show FRIENDS teach us about communication

  Not to say Ross’ “we were on a break” line isn’t an ice-breaker giving him that irresistible charm, but the writers behind the show FRIENDS had a secret “competitive” weapon that therapists and real-deal relationship experts use and teach their clients. As much as we love to argue about another “stupid” issue, there are times when we can save ourselves a headache. Ironically, the hit tv show FRIENDS teaches us the most important thing about communication. Today’s video is all about how to get our message across without getting louder, using the cold shoulder, mind reading, or giving up. It’s sort of a “blast from the past” video, before Love Savvy Club, and at the birth of the 11-day Communication Challenge. Watch it and learn the secrets that make it ridiculously easy to overcome any communication problems.   After watching the video, test the 2 secrets yourself this week, or even for the next...

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Secrets Couples Don't Tell (but should they?)

Secrets Couples Don’t Tell (but should they?)

  Psss, have you shared with your partner what it is that you really want (fill in the blank: this weekend, to solve your recent disagreement, to feel loved, to destress, from them to support you in your goals, to feel pleased)? Don’t worry. I won’t tell ’em. That’s between the two of you and it’s none of my business. But did you know about these secrets couples don’t tell, sometimes not even each other? 1. When they feel jealous Do they hide and react in other ways? Are they up front about it? Is it often and overbearing? Is it not enough? What’s the right amount? It’s tricky because a completely healthy and secure adult can be jealous about something their partner wouldn’t be, but it doesn’t make it any less valid. It takes a lot of courage and self-esteem to stand up for yourself and say “I’m not comfortable...

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When to sweep things under the rug

When to sweep things under the rug

Humor me by pretending we all solve our problems in the most respectful and appropriate manner. Yes, that means we’re pretending we would never roll our eyes, blame, manipulate, yell, ignore, overreact, or sweep things under the rug. We’re like the perfect couple you run into at church or at your child’s school, that never argue and are always so nice to each other (puke!). If an issue comes up for them, both of them say sorry, how cute—not, and make up. Wait? You relate to this couple? Are ya sure you’re human? Oh good, you are. We’re just pretending we’re like this couple. Good. We’re on the same page.   So let’s pretend we do all the following, which is the opposite of sweeping things under the rug: 1. We take responsibility for our part. If you’ve had a disagreement with your partner it doesn’t take long for you...

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How do I send my partner the right signals?

How do I send my partner the right signals?

How do I send my partner the right signals? Why doesn’t he get it? Do I need to spell it out for her? If he doesn’t show me he loves me (like that meme on Facebook described), then he doesn’t really care about me. Why does she keep pushing me away? Doesn’t she know she’s creating more distance? Can’t he get a hint?   We hear a lot about the ineffectiveness of mind reading, and yet… Body language is a subtle visual of our thoughts and reactions. Some of us have a good grip on masking our emotions, but in general, the subtle tone of voice, facial expression, posture, and impulsive reactions tend to give us away. The “I’m fine” response comes with a lower pitch, serious face, and no eye-contact. It’s a mixed message. So we go with the easy one, the one that gets us off the...

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