How do you know if you’re too passive?
Whether you avoid rocking the boat or are tired of bringing up an issue because of a stubborn partner, it’s fair that there are issues you try to roll off your shoulders—in hopes they will go away on their own or time will resolve them.
But if you aren’t passive, what’s the alternative?
How can you tactfully stand up for yourself, get your needs met, be assertive, and still be respectful?
In today’s video I share what it takes. It sounds straightforward, because it is—you don’t need extra bells and whistles to say what you need.
But you may be asking yourself: why does it matter?
“Why should I care to be less passive?”
The most obvious reasons are:
• You’re partner doesn’t have a clue of what’s bothering you, therefore will most likely do it again
• You’re not being totally honest
The least obvious reason is:
• You’ll end up way more satisfied!
I know this sounds like magical thinking, as if it’s something that happens at a push-of-a-button.
And yes, you may not be able to get your needs met as quick as one epsiode of The Big Bang Theory, but it will eventually happen. It won’t take centuries, but it will happen.
Recently, in the news this past week, there’s been talk about why women cheat on their husbands, discussing the alternative to conforming to traditional gender norms that leave women unsatisfied in heterosexual relationships (as I discussed in my article for Thrive Global here with all the research).
Basically, the research says a couple that shares responsibilities equally (and treat each other as equals) have better sex, compared to couples that stick to traditional gender norms.
Being passive does not give you a passionate relationship
Passivity ≠ Romantic & Loving Relationshp
Or as said in the video: Being Passive Prevents Intimacy
There’s nothing wrong in having needs, wants, cravings, desires, yearnings, and resentment for not getting them met.
It’s absolutely human!
Only you need to convice yourself that you’re absolutely deserving of it, and only you can advocate for yourself—regardless of your gender, age, ethnicity and education.
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